After that last post, I wasn’t sure if anyone would go to part 6 but I have to finish it, anyhow. The last item on my list is:
It doesn’t matter if your children are schooled outside the home or home-schooled, education should continue at home. It is important for children to be educated by their parents at home on good moral values, family traditions and belief, manners and practical life skills.
You don’t necessarily need books to teach or impose such knowledge on your children. There are many ways to educate your children and the best is always leadership by example. Children learn from what they see their parents do at home. Loving parents = loving children. Patient children usually come from patient parents. They may have a set of characters which are unique in each of them but children naturally emulate the people they are closest to.
Home-education is essential for bringing up independent children who appreciate their roots and where they come from. Don’t just leave it to the teachers to educate our children. As it is, academics is a huge load for them to handle.
A sum of all sacrifices, a sum of all fears
Parenting is a lot about giving our children the childhood they deserve. It’s a huge responsibility and it contributes more to the society than many people think. This one child whom God has placed under your stewardship, with sufficient love and proper care, will grow up to be the man or woman you mould him/her to be as a unit in society.
A better child contributes to make a better society. A better society contributes to make a better nation. A better nation contributes to make a better world.
Parents, you’re holding the world in your hands.
Here’s number four and I know I might not get a lot of approvals on this one:
Staying at home with (for) the kids
I know many mothers may not be ready for this but it must’ve crossed your minds once or twice to be a stay-at-home mum for the sake of your kids. It is a known fact that children grow up better with one full-time parent at home. The presence of a parent the whole day shows children that they truly matter and someone is willing to spend time with them, witnessing their best and worst moments.
I’ve worked and left my kids with the babysitters. I’ve also managed a childcare centre where my kids were with me. But the best times with my kids are when I’m at home with them throughout the day where I can give them my undivided attention. Home is where the heart is and my heart is with my kids at home. I might some day go back to the workforce if that’s where the Lord takes me. If that happens, I just know I will miss staying at home, pouring all my energy into serving my kids’ needs.
Whatever it is, I urge all parents… mothers, especially, to consider letting go of your career and caring for your own kids. There’s so much bonding, so much confidence and self-esteem building, so much love and affection when you prioritise your kids over all other commitments. And when you do something so special for your children, they will grow up to be just as selfless for others. As for the money concern… I believe the Lord always provides.
PS: No… I don’t actually get to sleep during the day like what you see in the picture.
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And now the second on the list…
Attachment parenting is a parenting philosophy for the well-being of the psychological development of a child. It consists of birth-bonding, breastfeeding, babywearing, bedding close to your baby, belief in the language value of your baby’s cry, being cautious of baby trainers and a well-balanced parenting.
It will take forever for me to explain what all these are so please google them (again, use the internet to find out what you can do best for your child), purchase books, join a forum, talk to other mothers about them. All these help to build a strong, confident child. Keeping your children close to you for as long as you can assures them of your love and affection for them and thus, providing them with the self-esteem they need when they are on their own as they grow older.
Never let your child cry to bed. Go to them when they need your attention. There will come a time when they don’t need you as much and that’s when you will regret the moments you deny them of.
Also, let your children grow and develop at their own unique pace. Never hurry them with all kinds of strict trainings just for your own convenience. They need to go through their childhood at the duration planned out for them by the Creator himself. Hurrying them will only make everyone miserable.
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