Here’s number four and I know I might not get a lot of approvals on this one:
Staying at home with (for) the kids
I know many mothers may not be ready for this but it must’ve crossed your minds once or twice to be a stay-at-home mum for the sake of your kids. It is a known fact that children grow up better with one full-time parent at home. The presence of a parent the whole day shows children that they truly matter and someone is willing to spend time with them, witnessing their best and worst moments.
I’ve worked and left my kids with the babysitters. I’ve also managed a childcare centre where my kids were with me. But the best times with my kids are when I’m at home with them throughout the day where I can give them my undivided attention. Home is where the heart is and my heart is with my kids at home. I might some day go back to the workforce if that’s where the Lord takes me. If that happens, I just know I will miss staying at home, pouring all my energy into serving my kids’ needs.
Whatever it is, I urge all parents… mothers, especially, to consider letting go of your career and caring for your own kids. There’s so much bonding, so much confidence and self-esteem building, so much love and affection when you prioritise your kids over all other commitments. And when you do something so special for your children, they will grow up to be just as selfless for others. As for the money concern… I believe the Lord always provides.
PS: No… I don’t actually get to sleep during the day like what you see in the picture.
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And now the second on the list…
Attachment parenting is a parenting philosophy for the well-being of the psychological development of a child. It consists of birth-bonding, breastfeeding, babywearing, bedding close to your baby, belief in the language value of your baby’s cry, being cautious of baby trainers and a well-balanced parenting.
It will take forever for me to explain what all these are so please google them (again, use the internet to find out what you can do best for your child), purchase books, join a forum, talk to other mothers about them. All these help to build a strong, confident child. Keeping your children close to you for as long as you can assures them of your love and affection for them and thus, providing them with the self-esteem they need when they are on their own as they grow older.
Never let your child cry to bed. Go to them when they need your attention. There will come a time when they don’t need you as much and that’s when you will regret the moments you deny them of.
Also, let your children grow and develop at their own unique pace. Never hurry them with all kinds of strict trainings just for your own convenience. They need to go through their childhood at the duration planned out for them by the Creator himself. Hurrying them will only make everyone miserable.
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So here’s the first on the list (and there are many others but here’s just a few I can think of right now):
This is actually part of attachment parenting but I’d like to stress on how important it is for a child to be given the best nutrients which can only be obtained from their mother’s own milk. It’s human milk for human babies. I’ve had success with breastfeeding for most of my kids and I knew it was good for them. But I never realised how silly feeding formula to a child is until I came across another mother asking at a forum: “Why would you give an animal’s milk to a human baby?” I deeply regret not giving the best food in the world to some of my children for as long as I could or even for two years.
Breastfeeding is also the best way to bond with your child. There is nothing more special to a baby than that moment when they get to spend that personal time latching on to their mothers.
It’s therapeutic. It helps a mother cope with post-partum syndrome. It calms her down, giving her moments of peace when she tries to adjust to new-motherhood.
To learn more about breastfeeding, join a support group on Facebook, google it, get help from a lactation consultant. There are many people who support breastfeeding nowadays as more and more people are exposed to the benefits (and myths) of breastfeeding. Tune out those who are trying to discourage you from giving the best food to your child. Don’t let hurtful comments and under-researched ideas of these people even make you think twice about exclusively breastfeeding your child.
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