So here’s the first on the list (and there are many others but here’s just a few I can think of right now):
This is actually part of attachment parenting but I’d like to stress on how important it is for a child to be given the best nutrients which can only be obtained from their mother’s own milk. It’s human milk for human babies. I’ve had success with breastfeeding for most of my kids and I knew it was good for them. But I never realised how silly feeding formula to a child is until I came across another mother asking at a forum: “Why would you give an animal’s milk to a human baby?” I deeply regret not giving the best food in the world to some of my children for as long as I could or even for two years.
Breastfeeding is also the best way to bond with your child. There is nothing more special to a baby than that moment when they get to spend that personal time latching on to their mothers.
It’s therapeutic. It helps a mother cope with post-partum syndrome. It calms her down, giving her moments of peace when she tries to adjust to new-motherhood.
To learn more about breastfeeding, join a support group on Facebook, google it, get help from a lactation consultant. There are many people who support breastfeeding nowadays as more and more people are exposed to the benefits (and myths) of breastfeeding. Tune out those who are trying to discourage you from giving the best food to your child. Don’t let hurtful comments and under-researched ideas of these people even make you think twice about exclusively breastfeeding your child.
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When I had my first child, I was told not to spoil him by carrying him all the time. I was also told that my babies will become too attached to me if I didn’t train them to be by themselves from the very beginning. I was told a lot of things which, only after six kids, I finally have the courage to defy. And I came up with just one advise that works best for any new mothers out there: you can never spoil a child by loving them.
Here, I have some so-what-ifs for those who try to (consciously or unconsciously) spoil the bond of a mother and her child with all those discouraging remarks:
- So what if a child grows too attached to his/her mother? Isn’t that better than rejecting his/her own mother?
- So what if a baby wants to be nursed all the time? She’s getting all the nutrients, bonding and most important of all, her mother’s constant affection which she needs most.
- So what if the child wants to be cuddled to sleep? Don’t you know that this child will feel more secure when he’s older compared to the child who cries himself to sleep?
- So what if the child frequently asks to be carried when she’s awake? Mothers can now use Moby wraps to wear their babies around safely as they do their chores. Babies are assured of their mothers’ presence and attention. They cry less, they are more emotionally sound and will grow up contented.
- So what if the world thinks you’re giving too much to a child who may disobey you and put you through hell in the future? That’s what they think, we can’t control what others think and it’s absolutely none of their business anyway so it shouldn’t bother us mothers who want to give the best to our children.
The less attention and affection we give to our children when they are younger, the more they will crave for them and the more they will come up with ideas to get our attention as they grow older.
Our children will not hang on to us forever. They will grow up and grow out of the needy stage. We are going to miss the times when they still needed us, SO much!
So the next time someone tells you off when you’re giving your attention and affection to your child, just smile and remove yourself from depressing, discouraging, hateful personalities andtheir remarks.