“The more children you have, the more confident you become in your parenting abilities,” Taylor continued. “You have to let go… and then you’re just thankful when they all get to school on time.” – excerpt from Researchers reveal the most stressful number of children you can have
This article also shares my views that four is the ideal number — if the couple doesn’t want to go crazy like us and have a basketball team and some reserve players. It gets easier after four, I always say.
People tell me they don’t know how I do it because they ‘have two already headache’ (you’ve got to say this with a Chinese accent). Well, you should go for four. Trust me, that’s double the amount of joy and half the amount of stress. Three is the worst. Sibling rivalry, middle child syndrome, entitled youngest, domineering eldest, almost zero teamwork because it’s everyone for themselves.
Having more siblings helps shape my kids to be who they are today. They may be hard to control with their noise, mischiefs, mess, and rowdiness, but they are always looking out AND looking after one another. That alone lessens the workload for us.
They are also wayyyyyyyyyyyyyy less selfish compared to when it was only Josh & Joy or Josh, Joy, & Ella. Whatever they have, they would automatically share. Whatever they do, the first thing on their mind is how it would affect the others. And they carry this with them in their relationship with their friends as well.
IMPORTANT NOTE: I don’t have to teach them these values. They pick them up on their own because they know they are in a team.
You want to tell me I’m being self-centred for wanting and having more kids? I may look tired all the time but the result I’m getting is kids who place others’ needs above their own. It’s definitely worth every blood, sweat, and tear. Literally. And that’s our contribution to society.
As with anything that involves people, quantity is what brings quality. Like in an organisation — corporate or non-corporate — the more manpower you have, the better the quality of the work. Here’s something to think about for new parents.